A death of a loved one is highly traumatizing and it becomes all the more unbearable when he leaves you unexpectedly. It is quite often said that other might just come and go, but it is the family members who have to go through the agony of their loss all through and all alone. But this is where a common mistake is made by friends and family.
A common question in the minds of many at this situation is what to do when someone dies. There might arise a condition when you get to know that the family member or a friend has passed away. A highly avoidable situation is this scenario is to avoid visiting the place or the friend. This is the situation where they might need you the most. Your absence might just augment the pain of the individual and his feel of loss. Your fear of showing up at that moment might just add to feel of isolation, something that should be highly unavoidable.
All you should do is to initiate by getting in touch with the friends. You should initiate by giving a call to the near and dear ones of the deceased. If you are the one who has suffered the loss of the near one, making the call to almost everyone in person is almost impractical. The best way to let people know about the loss is through writing an obituary notice and get it posted in the local newspaper. This is an ideal way to get the news transported since almost every person reads the newspaper in the morning.
Another important measure that you should consider while deciding on what is supposed to be done after a death is to settle on the funeral service and contact the providers on time. A funeral home that renders you the appropriate services and at prices pocket friendly should be opted for. The planning for the funeral service should be made well in advance like who will be the one who will be leading the funeral service. The services vary as per the community and county. There are few where it is obligatory on the part of the friends and family to send flowers or either makes donations in some charity. There are also some traditions where the family of the deceased decides to make bear the coffin on their own other than hiring the services of funeral director’s workforce.
There are changes being made in the funeral services with the changing times. There are families that ask for the deceased’s favorite music to be played during the ceremony. If you are in close relation with the deceased, it would be appropriate on your part to say few words about him. It is however not necessary that you have to talk all emotional about him. Talk about the funny instances you two have shared. That would definitely bring a smile on the faces of almost everyone present there. There are families that would prefer to opt for a new grave. You should first check your pockets for the same and then opt for the one that suits you.
All these measure would definitely help you out when you find yourself stuck in confusion as to what to do when a close one leaves you forever.
