Saturday 30 June 2012

A sneak peek at what to do when someone dies


A death of a loved one is highly traumatizing and it becomes all the more unbearable when he leaves you unexpectedly. It is quite often said that other might just come and go, but it is the family members who have to go through the agony of their loss all through and all alone. But this is where a common mistake is made by friends and family.

A common question in the minds of many at this situation is what to do when someone dies. There might arise a condition when you get to know that the family member or a friend has passed away. A highly avoidable situation is this scenario is to avoid visiting the place or the friend. This is the situation where they might need you the most. Your absence might just augment the pain of the individual and his feel of loss. Your fear of showing up at that moment might just add to feel of isolation, something that should be highly unavoidable.

All you should do is to initiate by getting in touch with the friends. You should initiate by giving a call to the near and dear ones of the deceased. If you are the one who has suffered the loss of the near one, making the call to almost everyone in person is almost impractical. The best way to let people know about the loss is through writing an obituary notice and get it posted in the local newspaper. This is an ideal way to get the news transported since almost every person reads the newspaper in the morning.

Another important measure that you should consider while deciding on what is supposed to be done after a death is to settle on the funeral service and contact the providers on time. A funeral home that renders you the appropriate services and at prices pocket friendly should be opted for. The planning for the funeral service should be made well in advance like who will be the one who will be leading the funeral service. The services vary as per the community and county. There are few where it is obligatory on the part of the friends and family to send flowers or either makes donations in some charity. There are also some traditions where the family of the deceased decides to make bear the coffin on their own other than hiring the services of funeral director’s workforce.

There are changes being made in the funeral services with the changing times. There are families that ask for the deceased’s favorite music to be played during the ceremony. If you are in close relation with the deceased, it would be appropriate on your part to say few words about him. It is however not necessary that you have to talk all emotional about him. Talk about the funny instances you two have shared. That would definitely bring a smile on the faces of almost everyone present there.  There are families that would prefer to opt for a new grave. You should first check your pockets for the same and then opt for the one that suits you.

All these measure would definitely help you out when you find yourself stuck in confusion as to what to do when a close one leaves you forever.

Tuesday 15 May 2012

Fight depression with easy to follow steps

Everyone once in his lifetime would have felt low and negative about their life. There might be times where things would not have fallen at the right place and as a result a person would have stayed in a negative state of mind for a comparatively longer time period. Science has termed this state of mind as depression, and in the present time, even a child is familiar with this term.

There are numerous ways that are an answer to the question of what to do when you are having depression and one of the best and followed till date is doing exercise. This is discussed to the most natural remedy to fight gloominess. Whether you go for a run, do skipping or opt for a gym, it does not really matter, what exactly matters the most is that doing regular exercise is the best way to liberate natural endorphins. Not just this, the most important part of an individual’s life is his family and friends and this is where they can help you the best. But, in any case you feel that the situation needs an expert help, there are support centers for your assistance.

The most important point in doing regular exercise is that your body tends to liberate chemicals with the increase in the level of your physical work out. This will automatically enhance your mood and your tolerance power to bear any sort of pain and agony. A common fact is a person who is regular at doing rigorous work out, automatically has a higher level of tolerance power towards any sort of emotional or physical trauma. A side effect of facing depression is that your appetite is reduced and hunger almost vanished.
There might arise a situation where you would feel that you don’t wish to consume even your favorite dish, the one that was your weakness. Similarly, a time might come where you would find yourself stuffing too much. A point of consideration is that you should be extra careful when it comes to gnawing food especially in these circumstances. Overeating and eating too less, both are not good for the betterment of your health. You should pay extra attention towards eating healthy food and nourishing your body with the right amount. Food rich in fiber and other significant fatty acids are best to battle this condition.

Another approach to fight this condition is to communicate your feelings and expressions to someone who is willing to listen so that you can feel better. Just in case you fail to discover someone to talk to, the best substitute would be to vent out your feelings through painting or penning down your ideas. When you are fighting the situation like this, world seems to be the worst place and difficult to survive in. Fighting a depressive state of mind is the most difficult task to accomplish.

Being in a situation like this is not always simple. But there is always a solution for the question what to do when you undergo depression. Building up positive thoughts and staying in the company of optimistic people will always be fruitful.